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Why do we instinctively like some people and find others irritating, or worse? What makes us agree, buy, help... or not? Do your gut instincts help or hinder your "LQ" – Likeability Quotient?



Answer this quick nine-question quiz and get some tips. Some of the answers may surprise you.



1. Do people get along better when talking to each other if they are facing each other or if they are standing side by side?



2. Who tends to face the person with whom they are speak… Continue

Leading a small workshop? Like to find out, upfront, how much they already know? Or how they feel about your topic? Try a fun, audience involver called the Spectrogram. This exercise also helps them feel heard, learn a bit about each other and get closer. Plus it is simple to set up and to do – as I’ve discovered after using it in nine interactive seminars.



Beforehand place a line of colored tape across open space on the floor of the workshop – preferably in front of the room. Make it… Continue

When meeting Natasha, photographer Rick Smolan never imagined she’d be an emotional thread of continuity for his life. Human stories take unexpected turns, especially next year.





I’ve got your back and you’ve got mine. That’s a mighty welcome feeling as we enter 2009. Why? Because, more than any of the last 25 years, 2009 will crackle with change, unexpected loss and fresh opportunities to be there for each other. Consequently,





prepare by picturing your Circles o… Continue

“When you deeply listen and get where people are coming from, and then care about them when you’re there, they’re more likely to let you take them where you want them to go.” ~ Warren Bennis

Thoughtful questions enable you to strengthen relationships. They can be disarming, breaking down barriers so you can begin to talk more directly to solve a problem or seize an opportunity – with others.

How, then, to ask great questions?

First avoid an off-putting pitfall: stating an opinion disguised as… Continue

Other than your best talent your most vital trait is the capacity to collaborate – especially with people extremely unlike you. That’s the great leverager of value. Many people – even some social media advocates - still hew to the Leaders/Followers model for work and social life.

Yet those most likely to succeed and savor their lives in this flattening world are those who can recruit people extremely unlike them to join in accomplishing “first-evers.” They will be sought- after Collaborators.… Continue